Good advice was given to me before we even brought The Littles home. Mothers of identical twins advised me to have some sort of code in how I dress the girls. This has been beneficial for two reasons. 1) It is helpful to have a consistent code to look back on in pictures because (gasp) I can’t always tell who is who in older pictures and 2) Other people will have an easier time telling them apart.
We followed this advice and received many coordinating outfits, usually one pink, one green/blue. Since Little J’s name sounds like a color of green, it was obvious to me that she wear the green/blue outfits. However, as time has gone on, this has translated to Little A always in the more feminine of the outfits, hair accessories, etc. For example, if we get coordinating outfits, one purple, one brown, Little A gets the purple outfit because it is more girlie.
This shouldn’t be a problem, but I have noticed that Little J is actually my girlie one! She wants to wear necklaces, carry purses, spin in puffy dresses and always checks in with daddy to hear she is beautiful. She has started to show preference towards pink and frills, but today was the most obvious manifest of her preference.
Today’s outfits were pink (with Disney princesses) and blue (with Winnie the Pooh). The Littles have never watched anything princess or Pooh related.
As I go to get them dressed, Little J kept asking for the “pretties”, which translates into her word for princess. She was so sweet about it, not crying, just insisting that she wanted the pink one. I appeased her by talking about how cute Winnie the Pooh was and she wore the blue outfit, a bit sadly, and we went on with our day.
This didn’t stop her from cozying up to the princesses at every opportunity.
Our day moved on and when it was time to swim, I took off their clothes and the first thing Little J did was grab Little A’s pink tank top with the princesses and just enjoy it, talk to the princesses, touch them, etc.
(Doesn’t Little J look so tall in this picture?)
After swimming, when it was time to dress them again, I put Little J in the pink because she wanted it so bad and Little A could care less (plus she likes Pooh).
When Jon got home from work, it took him about a minute of interaction to realize that he had The Littles confused because the system is so consistent.
So, what do I do? My system has worked great for me and really helps others identify the girls. Because Little J’s name sounds like green, it is easy to remember. Should I completely reverse my system?
Any other solutions?